“Persuade Your Spouse To Be Nice by Rewarding Them When They Are…Nice!” -Gary Anderson II

Psychology Of Persuasion?

What I’m about to explain to you below is only a small part of many dirt simple Principles of the Psychology of Persuasion! The problem is that there is an amazing amount of people that may claim that they understand these dirt simple “Psychology of Persuasion” principles, but they still will not change the way they behave themselves! Also, this is NOT some dirty, evil, mean stuff. This is good for everybody involved in any kind of interpersonal relationship! (I promise!).

Knowledge of Persuasion vs Learning How To Persuade:

A person can read a book about “how to persuade people“ (or how to do anything for that matter) and have all that new found knowledge in their head, but if that person does not change the way they DO things, or the way they act, or the way they behave, then they’ve not “learned” a single thing! I’m about to illustrate something that may or may not be understood, but the real point of this article is that, after reading these factual principles about “how to persuade your spouse to be nice“, a person should then ACT upon them! If a person reads this, absorbs the knowledge but then does not change their actions, they fall into a category that I like to refer to as “Stupid By Choice”. (but that’s just me).

Please allow me to illustrate just how simple it is to get your spouse or a friend or any one you spend a lot of time with, to do and act certain ways that you would prefer to see them act or do (did I say that right?). This is not about getting people to do bad things, ok? This is just a short version of a much larger, although simple example of one of the many “Principles of Persuasion”!

Understanding The Psychology Of Persuasion:

Example: If a dog or person REPEATEDLY has bad experiences every time they do “XYZ”, given enough time they will learn to “Not Do” xyz anymore, no matter if “xyz” is a good / moral thing or not, the point is…
Bad resulting experience (REPEATEDLY) = “Hey I don’t think I’ll do that anymore!” (get it?)

If a dog or a person REPEATEDLY has GOOD experiences every time they do “xyz”, given enough time they will become be less reluctant, and even “encouraged” to do more of it! The point is….
Good resulting experience (REPEATEDLY) = “Hey, I think I’ll do that more often!” (See? Simple!)

Psychology of Persuasion 101 says (In the “GanderCo dictionary ),  well, as it pertains to an pet for the sake of this illustration: When your pet does what you want it to do, like sit or whatever, you give them a treat or some kind of a reward, right? Well, the psychology is the same, in principle, for people too! From childhood all the way up to to the CEO level, we’ve all “learned” and developed our own personal “Do’s and Dont’s” in a way similar to something like this → Do good stuff, get good stuff back. Do bad stuff, don’t get good stuff back.

It is very important to understand however, that you should never DO bad things to “People” in order to “Train / Persuade” them to stop doing stuff! Reward them for doing good, YES! But that does NOT mean to DO bad things to a person (this is where Humans are different from pets). Instead, be rewarding and/or extra pleasant when they do good, and when they don’t do good, then just don’t be so extra pleasant or rewarding. Once again, do not shoot them when they do something you don’t like, but just simply don’t reward them either….Get it?

So, If you’re having problems with your child, your spouse or even a friend, who is not acting / doing / behaving as you want them to, then may I suggest that you read the above a few times over, keeping in mind that this is only a HINT on how to get people to umm, ohhh, hmm, let’s say, “Act Better”. (You fill in the rest however it pertains to your special situation). Then…

Read between the lines and “THINK!”

P.S…

Is this the “Art Of Persuasion”?

No! (well, maybe a small part of it). These “Principles” may not always apply to every situation for everyone at all times. However, I’ve been married now for 18 years which is plenty of time to notice that if I want my wife to be nicer to me, then all I have to do is follow the principle of “Persuade Your Spouse To Be Nice by being nice to them in reaction to them being nice to you and therefore they will be nice to you more often! (a little comic relief here, but still very true).

Feel free to say anything you want in the comment section. In fact, please DO! Say whatever you’d like!

Be good and be safe but remember, if you want to be extraordinary, then get used to….

“Different Ways Of Thinking!”

Gary Anderson II
aka- @GanderCo

Can't We All Just Get Along?