Encouragement Success and Fulfillment : Before a person can truly experience this in their own life it is essential to create a mindset that leads them to make good decisions that will create a life of “encouragement success and fulfillment”. True success is difficult to achieve without having encouraging people in your life. And those who are truly successful enjoy helping others on the journey as well.
People With Success and Fulfillment Encourage Others
And successful people typically encourage others for three reasons.
1- Successful People Know They Are A Product Of Encouragement.
Don’t allow yourself to be fooled. The “self made” man is a fallacy. Whether a mentor or a spouse behind them, there is someone who instilled courage when strength failed.. someone who believed when hope was gone.. and someone who renewed their spirit when fear banished their dream.
Amazing people never made it, or make it alone. They have someone to learn from and follow. Don’t confuse this with the weakling who uses others for a crutch or to feed a frail ego.
People who live their purpose daily got there by having someone in their lives who showed them the way and specifically encouraged them on the journey.
2- Successful People Remember Their Struggling First Steps.
Think back to a time when you tried something new and was really bad at it. I remember driving an 18 wheel truck for the first time. It wasn’t easy.
I had never been in a “Big-Truck” until I was 28 years old! Until then I had only been in cars with 4 wheels. When I got in a 40 ton Big-Truck for the first time and pulling a trailer that was 53 feet long everything felt unnatural to me!
Successful people are able to look back and remember how clumsy they were, and how awkward it felt to start in a new drivers seat in life. Those memories create a desire to help others. They don’t want to “prevent the mistakes and stubles” necessarily, but they do want to encourage people to keep going when they fall.
3- All Successful People Have Felt Like Quitting – But Didn’t.
ALL of them! Period! And they know what it feels like to want to give up!
Sometimes we look at people who live on the level we desire and we think, “It’s so easy for him. He’s so happy, driven and energetic… and always so positive. It’s as if he never gets down or sidetracked.”
There is no one who’s “made it” that didn’t feel like packing up, leaving the dreams behind, and settling for a mediocre anonymous existence. But those thoughts don’t last long.
Whatever drove them to the point of launching out somehow was rekindled, they took on the world again, and now they are glad they didn’t quit. These very same people will encourage others to keep on going when they feel like quitting.
Whether you know it or not, your own life either needs help or gives help to others for;
encouragement success and fulfillment.
Which one are you? Just a thought
Some people get in the habit of feeding on encouragement, but never encourage others. Instilling courage is more than just calling someone up to say;
“I’m calling to check on you to see how you’re doing and to encourage you… You doing alright? That’s nice. Ok, talk to you later.”
On the contrary. Encouraging others is an investment! An investment in the development of someone wanting to leave their unpleasant circumstances for a more pleasant, successful and fulfilled lifestyle.
Whether we like it or not, our lives are going to be one of two things to other people… A warning, or an example. Which one will you choose to be? Go ahead, I’ll give you a second to think about it…
Back already? Ok, so did you choose to be an example and not a warning? Good! Here’s a few idea’s on how you can instill “Courage” in those around you.
1. Pinpoint The Fear And Weakness
When someone gets wounded out of fear or failure, help them see what caused the fear or failure. Rarely is it the anxiety of physical performance, but the acceptance of others.
For example, you’ve probably heard the common misconception that “Public Speaking is the #1 Fear.” I don’t believe that’s true.
Are you more afraid to speak to a group of 1,000 people or to jump off the Empire State building without a parachute? Suddenly, if just for a fleeting moment, public speaking is no so scary huh?
The fear is not the act of speaking. No one has ever stepped in front of a group of people and spoke their very first words. They’ve been speaking for years. So what are people really afraid of if it’s not speaking? Could it be losing control and looking stupid?
Human beings work their whole lives to control the way they are perceived by others. You can’t control a crowd. You can’t make them like you and not judge you.
So the real issue is not speaking, it’s actually not being able to control perception (DO NOT underestimate the power of “Perception”! The stock market is not driven by it’s true value, it’s driven by “the Perception of it’s value”!).
When you’re instilling confidence in someone, help them to see where the paralyzing fear, anxiety and weakness is coming from. Are they trying to please someone? Are their finances on the line? Do they fear looking foolish? Do they fear being judged as incompetent or as an idiot?
2. From Fearful To Cheerful
“Purely Motivational” seminars can actually hurt people by making them yell, “Yes I can! Yes I can!” Most of the people in the room cannot and never will get any lasting results out of unskilled, blind motivation!
REAL encouragement does not instill false courage. Real encouragement will include real skills that should move people from the point of fear to reality. Think and speak like this…
> “Stop worrying about the things you can’t change! Here’s what you can do right now.”
> “Here’s why that problem isn’t as big as you think.”
> “Here’s what you can achieve if you decide to focus on what you can do, then keep going and never give up.”
Don’t try to pump someone up with empty energy. There’s no need to get them into a passion frenzy only for them to plunge deeper after the words wear off.
3. Share An Authentic Personal Story Of Failure
When you reach your dreams people will think you are not like them. They will think you haven’t failed the way they have. Authenticity is one of the best tools of encouragement. It lets the other person see that you are real and vulnerable.
When building others up share a failure, a misstep or a mistake of your own. Let them know that you’ve made your share of mistakes, but that your mistakes eventually lead to your success instead of derailing it.
What success story do you have right now that you could share? What is the lowest point you have risen from? How could it be used to encourage someone.
These steps so far have fed the spirit, but encouragement also involves physically actionable skills as well.
I’ve been thinking about “Courage” almost on a daily basis for the past few years because I’ve had to have courage like I never thought possible (corny, but true!).
Then one evening about 2 years ago I began writing these thoughts of mine on paper.
This post is already quite long and yet it is only a fraction of what I have wrote down in my paper notebooks (that is on courage and encouragement alone) so far, so I’ll stop for now.
Man, I could write for hours and hours on my personal experiences with encouragement success and fulfillment! I would really like some feedback. Please.. Really. No kidding! For Real! …
In the comments section below let me, us, the world know about your thoughts or useful additions that you could contribute. We (other people) need your advice and / or stories of “Encouragement Success and Fulfillment” too!!